Monday, June 29, 2009

From Tears of Sorrow to Tears of Joy

This is an article written for a friend of mine for his magazine.
by Sunny Arakawa with Tim Arakawa


“Good bye, Mom,” I yelled out, waving my hands as the automatic glass gate separating us slowly slid shut. Only 14 years old, I clutched my bag a little tighter and fought back my emotions, fearing that tears would only make things more difficult for the both of us. I turned and slowly headed down the jetway toward the airplane waiting to whisk me to the United States. My final destination was Oklahoma Academy, a Seventh-day Adventist boarding high school located in the cornfields east of Oklahoma City. But during the ten hour flight from Seoul to Los Angeles, the tears began to flow as I realized what it meant to say good bye to my dear mother and hello to a new life in America.

When I first arrived at Oklahoma Academy, I had no real intention to become an Adventist. To be honest, I knew very little about Adventist beliefs except for the curious fact that they attended church on Saturday. This was in stark contrast to the many other Christians like me who went to church on Sundays. In fact, I would not even have known about Oklahoma Academy except that, back in Korea, an Adventist friend of my mother had taken an interest in me and recommended this school in America. At that time, I don’t believe that any one, including my mother, understood how much my life was about to change forever.

“Six days shalt thou labour, and do all thy work: But the seventh day is the sabbath of the LORD thy God: in it thou shalt not do any work” Exodus 20:9-10

One of the first things I noticed when I arrived at Oklahoma Academy was that we not only went to church on Saturdays but also didn’t do anything related to work, business, or school on that day. Our work-study program required students to work four hours every day except for Saturdays. Up to that point, I had never really worked in my life. Of course, I washed dishes at home and cleaned my room regularly, but besides that, I did not have much exposure to actual “work.” My body, unaccustomed to labor at all, now grew weary after a long week of toil. By the end of each work week, I was ready for a break. I also noticed that by late Friday afternoon, all class work was set aside, the laundry room was closed, and the dormitory was cleaned in preparation for Sabbath. Even the girls lined up to iron their dresses before sundown on Friday. Little by little, I was learning that the Sabbath was a special day to worship and meet with God, an occasion important enough to prepare for.

“For in six days the LORD made heaven and earth, the sea, and all that in them is, and rested the seventh day” Exodus 20:11

Much more than a time to be physically and mentally rejuvenated, the Sabbath hours provided an opportunity for gaining spiritual strength as well. Frequently, my classmates and I spent Sabbath afternoon in nature listening to the cheerful songs of the birds, the wind rustling the leaves in the trees, and the babbling of a sparkling stream as it meandered through the countryside. Sometimes the academy staff took all the students camping on the weekend. One of my fondest memories of these camping trips was sleeping on a dock over a lake. I remember gazing into the blackness of space at an incredible canopy of innumerable, twinkling stars as the water gently lapped against the wooden dock. There I could understand what it meant to hear the voice of God in the quietness of our soul and surroundings. In this kind of environment I could take the time to reflect on the priorities, the direction, and ultimately, the meaning of my life. In the cool, crisp air near a calm, peaceful lake with the majestic mountains rising all around, I could truly find rest for my soul and body.

“Wherefore it is lawful to do well on the sabbath days.” Matthew 12:12

The Sabbath also became a time to serve others, to spread this Sabbath rest to those less fortunate. On many Sabbath afternoons, the students visited with and sang for the lonely elderly people in the nursing home nearby. Looking back, they were always so glad to see us and hear us as we sang and played their favorite hymns. How they appreciated our youthful efforts to make a joyful noise! We sat next to their wheelchairs, sharing hymnals with them, singing with them, and mingling with them. As their hearts were touched through our company and in the powerful messages contained in the simple hymns, we too were blessed as we ministered to them.

Through these experiences I gained a new meaning for the Sabbath. I have come to understand that the Sabbath is a day set aside to think beyond myself and my own little world, and to look toward something much bigger -- a God of love and mercy whose greatest desire is to restore His image in us. Throughout my years at Oklahoma Academy, I became more and more convicted about Biblical truth, including the Sabbath, and during my senior year, I chose to be baptized as an expression of my love and commitment to Jesus Christ.

Immediately afterward, I began praying that my dear mother would experience the same rest that I had found in the Sabbath. Thirteen years later, I flew back to Korea to visit my mother. This time I did not have to fight back my emotions. Instead tears of joy streamed down my face as I watched my mother immersed under the waters of baptism into the Seventh-day Adventist Church. What a privilege it was to spend the Sabbath together as members of the Seventh-day Adventist church for the first time. My prayer is that God will help us to be faithful so that we may never have to say “good bye” again but enjoy the Sabbath together for eternity.

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Monday, December 22, 2008

5 things I like about being Tim's wife

When I was younger (in my early elementary school years) I wondered why in the world would any girl want to hang out with boys. Girlfriends were the best thing in the world (and I still couldn't live without them). On the other hand, boys were kind of awkward and rough, and they were meant to be kept at least 10 feet away from us girls. I definitely couldn't have imagined having a guy best-friend. I mean, I thought I would marry a man some day but I hadn't quite developed my appreciation for them quite yet. But over time, as I got more mature, guys became "cooler" in my estimate, and I have even developed likings to few guys on the way. But even then I didn't quite understand how fulfilling a woman's life can be with a man that God brings in her life.

These are the five things that come to my mind as I reflect on how much I appreciate having Tim as my husband and best-friend:

1. Committed companionship - It's a wonderful thing to have a committed companion. We are the priorities to each other than anything else in this world -- work, school, ministry, social life, hobbies, etc. It gives me a sense of belonging that is different from that experienced in parent-child relationship. As a child, I have been much more on the receiving end and my parents more on the giving end (thank God for them), but between Tim and me, it's mutual, closer, and deeper.

2. Helpmeet - God made Eve for Adam that she can be a helpmeet for him. I try my best to be that helpmeet for Tim, but Tim also is a helpmeet for me. He fills in so well where I lack -- he analyzes situations in an objective way when I am in a fog, guides and encourages me in the spiritual things, and even helps out in the daily mundane things of life that must be done.

3. "Let this mind be in you" - Our marriage is helping me to understand and experience the "Love" that God intends for us to partake in. It makes me more aware of my selfishness and leads me to develop the unselfish love, the love that puts others first before myself. It will be a lifetime learning experience for me. I am more like Christ because of Tim's example.

4. Personal growth - Tim inspires and motivates me to be involved, grow, and increase my usefulness in this world. He is interested in my interests and encourages me to develop and multiply the few talents that the Lord has graciously granted me that I may be a faithful servant returning more than what was given.

5. Ample supply of endorphin - Tim is so much fun to be around. His sense of humor keeps my life filled with extra laughters. Life isn't always rosy, but even during the rough times, "a merry heart doeth good like a medicine."

I am happy in his love and much blessed to be his wife.

Tuesday, February 26, 2008

"Will you marry me?"

Yes, it's for real. Tim asked me to marry him yesterday at the top of the Snow Summit Ski Resort at Big Bear mountain. He planned out everything so well that I was completely clueless until the very moment he got on his knee and pulled out the engagement watch. I couldn't believe it! I thought it was going to be a special day to enjoy skiing with him after getting 6 inches of snow over the weekend, but I didn't know just how special it was going to be. The day was way beyond my expectations. It was a beautiful day in more ways than one.
It was around 3pm. He wanted to take a break and check out a little lodge at the peak and take a picture there. Sure, it looked like a nice spot to take a picture with lots of trees spread among the snow capped mountains. Well, it turned out the lodge was closed and we found the back patio to be a nice quiet spot just for us, hidden from all the skiers and snow boarders. It was there he went on to present to me his three gifts that he smuggled up to the peak in his ski jacket unbeknownst to me.
The first gift he gave me, he said, represented the time of our past experiences -- a small double picture frame that had a picture of us on one side and a bible verse on the other. It said, "Except the Lord build the house, they labor in vain that build it." Psalms 127:1. This represented a fun and enjoyable times together as well as the rough time of separation we went through that led us to wait on God and trust in His building. If you are not too familiar with the meaning of this bible text to us, read the last post below. God is faithful.
The second gift was to represent the current chapter of our relationship -- a fresh-cut soft pink tulip in its beautifully perfect shape. This came with a small note that said, "Love is a plant of heavenly growth, and it must be fostered and nourished." (AH 50) A pink tulip was the first flower ever that Tim gave me early on in our relationship. Ever since than this has become one of my most favorite flowers. This flower symbolized our love for each other that is carefully and tenderly cultivated right now in His love.
The last, but not the least, he pulled out a blue watch box as he got on his knee. He said this gift is to represent our future together. To be honest, I really couldn't remember much of that moment since he knelt down with a watch box in his hand. I gasped in a total shock, definitely unexpected and overwhelmed in joy of what was about to happen. Thanks to Tim who got a short video clip of the moment in hiding, I can now actually remember what he said. He said, over the four years he has come to admire and respect me, and believed that God has led us together. Then, the precious four words were spoken... "Therefore, I want to ask you, 'Will You Marry Me?'" I hugged him and hugged him so more, and shed few tears, and of course I said, "I will!"
It was perfect. I loved it. I loved it!
As if this wasn't enough, I was surprised again to come home that was gorgeously decorated, filled with soft yellow lights and ivy, candles, balloons, tulips, wonderful smell of italian dinner, and most importantly our beloved friends. The rest of the evening was spent sharing our stories with them, enjoying the homemade manicotti and other yummy foods. Many thanks to my sister, roommates, and friends who made the day all the more special with their labor of love and their presence to share the moments.
I deeply felt loved...

Tuesday, October 30, 2007

Except the Lord build the house - Part II


Except the Lord build the house, they labor in vain that build it.
Ps 127:1
Click here for Part I.

There is a man whom I respect very much. He loves the Lord and his fellowman. Since Oct 8, 2005 until Oct 8, 2007, I have hardly seen or talked with him. I had no clue what would come out of our relationship when we went on our separate ways. Our parting words were, “the Lord will bring us back together if it is His will.” I think separation is one of the hardest human experiences on this earth. The last two years, I felt as if someone had blindfolded me and I knew not where I was going with my life. Many times, I read and reread the stories of Abraham. Though I did not know the path ahead, what I did know was the surety of God's Word and His faithfulness. As I tried to scratch my own ideas and allow the Lord to draw the picture, I rested my case in the Lord and held on to Him for daily strength and direction. During these times, there were two lessons that I began to learn of Him and to understand:
  1. What it means to love someone -- It is more than experiencing butterflies in the stomach. It is more than the heart’s desire to spend every moment of life’s journey with the one whose company you enjoy so much. It is a combination of all the above and a sincere desire and decision to look out for the other person’s happiness above your own.
  2. What it means to wait on the Lord -- It means to acknowledge the superiority of the thoughts and plans of the Lord to my own, and to submit daily with these words: “Not my will, but Thy will.” It also means to trust the Lord in His workings and keep our hands out of where they don’t belong. Abraham and Sarah didn’t need to involve Hagar to see the earnestly desired son Isaac. Simply relying on the word of the Lord, and waiting for Him to fulfill the promises to show His goodness would have saved the unnecessary heartache and family grief that they had to experience.
By God's mercy and faithfulness, Tim and I enjoy each other’s company once again. The Lord works in mysterious ways and although I don’t claim to understand all the workings of the Lord, one thing I do know is that He is trustworthy.

Sunday, August 05, 2007

It is not good that the man should be alone...

Go, Daryl!

Ahhhhh.....
Carlos, Carlos...Dr. and Mrs. Proctor zipping by.


Two most beautiful and happiest people on earth today...
Few of the Advent HOPErs take hold of this prime photo opportunity. Rest of them are busy eating the cake.

I must say this was one of the most fun weddings I've been to. One comedy after another... I pray that their new home may be full of joy and laughter in love even through thick and thin!

Friday, August 03, 2007

Dafne's White Coat Ceremony

Speaker: Dr. Gina Mohr, Family Medicine (Pallative Care)
Dr. Christianson coated Dafne.


Dafne with other students after the ceremony.
You know who...

May the Lord help you be the healing hands of Jesus!

Monday, July 30, 2007

Visit to an orphanage

In rememberance of a friend of mine, I went to visit a small orphanage nestled away in the beautiful country. The view from the place was gorgeous with plenty dirt for kids to play with. One of my mom's friends donated some school supplies to take with me, and the kids were just ecstatic when they saw them.



We also shared some food and Signs of Times with the lady in charge (the forth person from the left) who is a Buddhist and exchanged e-mails. She was ever so thankful. She takes care of these kids by herself and the place was not a mansion by any means. I would love to come back and visit them again when I come back next time.

This poor kid... Unfortunately we didn't have enough of the same thing for everyone, and one of the older kids took what he liked. I don't know exactly what happened, and we tried to console him with other stuff, but he wouldn't stop crying. It broke our hearts to see him like this.

It was more heart-touching to see this scene though! What an angel...



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